Thursday, October 04, 2007

Neighbours....Everybody Needs Good Neighbours

I just want to get something off my chest re. my neighbour's neighbour's 9 year old boy. Our neighbours to the left have 2 girls aged 4 and 9, and their neighbours to the left have 3 boys, 2 teenagers and a 9 year old called Max. (No chance they will read this, I'm friendly but very private!) Max is (or was) very close to left side neighbour's 9 year old girl, they've grown up together, but the girl has outgrown him, nonetheless, he is ALWAYS over there, playing with the littlest girl. It bothers me, because I don't want this kid playing with my Little P - I think 9 year old boys should play with, well other 9 year old boys. And here, in brief is why I think this. About a year ago he was playing with the little girl (so him aged 8, her aged 3) and he was yelling at her that she was a "stupid lesbian" she was asking him what that was, he explained, in a 8 year old boy way (that's when I first thought, note to self, Parker isn't going to play next door - when he is there). A couple of months ago, I was indulging in a little Nana Nap - and Max is playing next door, out the front of their house with littlest girl, as per. I can hear them clearly and out of the blue I hear the wheelie bin slam shut and the little girl screaming, and Max laughing his head off, I think, oh great he's put her in the bin, and he had! Then he lets her out, and consoles her, and promises if she gets back in the bin he won't close the lid, she gets back in - and bang, he shuts the lid, this is really starting to piss me off, she's so little, so I say out loud, "right that's it, I have to say something" just as I am at my front door, the little girl's Dad appears and says, "Max, don't put her in the bin please". I go back to the comfort of my bed, cross, but at least he's stopped putting her in the bloody wheelie bin. THEN the other night, neighbours to the left are having a Footy Grand Final Party, and I can hear Max playing down the side bit of our houses (shared bit down the side) with the little girl, he's yelling at her "Stop lying, it's NOT YOUR Birthday" she insists that it is, and he gets really irate, and smacks her, I don't know where he smacked, I only hear this, cause it's dark, and then he says "I'm sorry it had to come to this, but it is NOT your birthday" (what an odd thing to say). Now the little girl cried, but I don't think she 'dobbed' on him. Not sure if I should say anything to the neighbours to my left, I know that I'd want to know, but don't want to be "Nosy Beryl" as big D is prone to saying when he takes the piss out of me! There, I've shared, it's nice having a public place in which to vent/brood/sulk/showoff and or otherwise off load!

8 comments:

Stomper Girl said...

I wouldn't let my six-year-old boy play with that kid. Also, if he is monstering your neighbour's little girl I don't think it would be nosy to say something.

LouLou said...

It is always tricking dealing with other peoples children...especially the "difficult" ones....It seems odd to me that the parents are not paying more attention to the 3 year old and listening, if not watching to what is going on.Im sure he is not a horrible kid, but just using what little power he has in his life - but I think you should tell these people because this poor little girl is being terrorised by the sounds of it...I have an 8 year old boy who is so gentle and kind, and it makes me sad to think of Max and why he behaves this way!Whats going on in his little world i wonder???

dizzyjadey said...

That is some weird behaviour for a little boy! I'd say something, maybe nothing direct, but more along the lines of "maybe you should keep a closer eye on those two when they play together". Her parents will want to know, I think.

Lissy said...

I would be keeping my kids away too...shame the little girl's parents aren't doing the same! I feel sorry for the little boy too as you wonder at his role models....none of us are perfect but as parents it is up to us to try to be the best we can...hi by the way - I am de lurking! I enjoy your blog :)

emma said...

I would definitely mention it to the parents, I would be really upset if this kind of thing was happening to one of my kids and someone knew and didn't tell me about it. Once you bring it to their attention, it's up to them how they want to deal with it. By the way, have you thought about putting him in the wheelie bin and then sitting on the lid?

ingrid said...

That little kid would definitely NOt be on my play date list. I would mention it to the parents. I am sure they would appreciate your concern.

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joanne said...

Id be keeping a close eye on that little bugger.....

Corrie said...

oh no...do you think the girls mother knows (or cares) what is going on....I'm afraid I have a very big mouth and speak my mind so if it was me I'd have to say something was bothering me and its up to her if she wants
to do something about it